One of the things that I like best about Wicca as a religion and as a way of life is that it tends to be very tolerant of the personal choices of those involved. Now, that is not to say that you won't find the occasional Wiccan who might get squeamish or even belligerent about homosexuality, but most will simply acknowledge your choice as right for you and go happily on about their business.

In the Tradition in which I trained, and in the coven I lead, we have just about every sexual preference except perhaps intentionally celibate. We have straights, gays, lesbians, bi's, open marriages, two triads, and even conventionally monogamous pairings like my husband and myself. We happily handfasted two of our Initiates last summer in a lovely ritual designed particularly by these two wonderful ladies. What is important in a relationship, at least as far as we are concerned, is not the shape of the plumbing involved, but the love and caring between two individuals.

There is also in Wicca one of the most beautiful pieces of religious writing that I have ever run across. Called the Charge of the Goddess, it was penned by one of the first Wiccan priestesses. In it it says in the words of the Goddess, "all acts of love and pleasure are my rituals". That pretty well sums up how Wiccans look at a sexual relationship.

One of the core beliefs about Wicca is expressed in the Wiccan Rede, "an it harm none, do as ye will". This basically means that as long as what you chose to do does not harm yourself or others, there is nothing in Wicca that says your actions are wrong. Wicca has no concept of "sin" such as a Christian would put forward. In place of rigid rules on what is "right" and what is "wrong", the Wiccan path teaches personal choice and bearing the responsibility for the consequences of that choice. It is in many ways a more difficult path to tread since there are no absolutes, but it also helps us to grow and mature as human beings when we have no one but ourselves to blame our mistakes and shortfalls on.

Remember that we also believe that each of us holds within ourselves that which is God and that which is Goddess. If you respond in that recognition to a partner, of whichever sex, in a loving and nurturing relationship, the Gods will certainly not say that you are wrong. We are all creatures of the Divine, created here on earth as we are. If the Divine chose to create someone in this life as gay, lesbian, or bisexual, then it must be right for them now. The Divine does not make mistakes.

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