One of the things that I like best about Wicca as a religion and as a way of
life is that it tends to be very tolerant of the personal choices of those involved.
Now, that is not to say that you won't find the occasional Wiccan who might get squeamish
or even belligerent about homosexuality, but most will simply acknowledge your choice
as right for you and go happily on about their business.
In the Tradition
in which I trained, and in the coven I lead, we have just about every sexual preference
except perhaps intentionally celibate. We have straights, gays, lesbians, bi's, open
marriages, two triads, and even conventionally monogamous pairings like my husband
and myself. We happily handfasted two of our Initiates last summer in a lovely
ritual designed particularly by these two wonderful ladies. What is important in
a relationship, at least as far as we are concerned, is not the shape of the plumbing
involved, but the love and caring between two individuals.
There is also in
Wicca one of the most beautiful pieces of religious writing that I have ever run
across. Called the Charge of the Goddess, it was penned by one of the first Wiccan
priestesses. In it it says in the words of the Goddess, "all acts of love and
pleasure are my rituals". That pretty well sums up how Wiccans look at a sexual
One of the core beliefs about Wicca is expressed in the Wiccan
Rede, "an it harm none, do as ye will". This basically means that as long
as what you chose to do does not harm yourself or others, there is nothing in Wicca
that says your actions are wrong. Wicca has no concept of "sin" such as
a Christian would put forward. In place of rigid rules on what is "right"
and what is "wrong", the Wiccan path teaches personal choice and bearing
the responsibility for the consequences of that choice. It is in many ways a more
difficult path to tread since there are no absolutes, but it also helps us to grow
and mature as human beings when we have no one but ourselves to blame our mistakes
and shortfalls on.
Remember that we also believe that each of us holds within
ourselves that which is God and that which is Goddess. If you respond in that recognition
to a partner, of whichever sex, in a loving and nurturing relationship, the Gods
will certainly not say that you are wrong. We are all creatures of the Divine, created
here on earth as we are. If the Divine chose to create someone in this life as gay,
lesbian, or bisexual, then it must be right for them now. The Divine does not make
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